A lesson

First year of college, i ran into a lot of arguments with my friends in that stage of getting comfortable. They all ended badly, some of them in fights. Those who were nice to me till then started avoiding me, especially those whom i thought were my special friends. having became all of a sudden, the uninvited, i didn't know what to do. Spending more time with my laptop was the only thing left. Few weeks went by, and then one day it happened. One of my friends from the other room approached me and said "why do you live where you are not welcome, come stay in our room. We are like a family there. We never leave behind one of our own". And then again, slowly, my life started to color. It took me a solid year to get close to them, i was reserved for a while and for good reason. But as soon as i was, my god given gift, instincts of sarcasm and arguments were back again. I feared that i might loose my friends again.
One day, sitting in a bar drinking beer on a sunny afternoon, i realized that God gifted me sarcasm instead of good humor  So i decided to shut myself up and spoke so little, so that i could think about what to say and what was said, than doing it. It's true that it takes two sides to continue an argument, so whenever i felt like a bad tone is on approach, i put a lid on mine and continued the argument in my mind. Took me a few months of pain and a hand full of bitter memories to figure it out, but yes i learned. Nobody wants to hear negative shit, Not plainly at least. The world wants to laugh, at someone if possible. If you twist your words of sarcasm with a pinch of subtle humor and speak them at the right moment, they will suck it up without a thought.
In time, i won back all those whom i had lost on the way. The ones that i had left behind, they still remain my good friends. And as for the ones that never let me go, they remain my best.